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    Drug Logic and Understanding It

    The drug logic of an addict and how to understand it

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    How “An Addict Within”, occurred.

    Discusses how the book ” An Addict Within: came about. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qq7AI2hHmuEn

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    Why i wrote the Book “An Addict Within”

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qq7AI2hHmuEttp:// An Addict Within”: why the book  was written

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    Pain and Suffering

    In my almost ten year journey of dealing with an addicted child and now an adult I and my family have felt pain , and anger (what I call the seven deadly angers) and believe me for 7 years of my 10 year ongoing journey we suffered, and suffered miserably. Especially me…the dad! What I […]

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    Addict is a Dirty Word

    I actually had a revelation one day.  that revelation was in regards to the societally dirty  taboo word… “Addict”. The word addict is as dark and dirty today  as Cancer was 50 years ago, or, AIDS was 25 years ago. Even though the term Addiction has been around for more years than AIDS and probably even […]

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    Free Chapter Sample my book: An Addict Within

    This book is not another story about an addict. It is the “Other Side of the Story”. The side of the story that you rarely see or hear about. That of the family. The mothers, fathers, sisters, and brothers of the addict and the damage caused, the chaos caused, and the broken relationships that happen […]

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    Daytona 500

    One of America’s largest sports is NASCAR. I have only seen one race and although not an avid fan of racing, as I watched it I thought how exciting it would be driving in a car as a passenger at  200 plus mph, bumper to bumper in a high tech machine. Physically being pushed and […]

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    Types of Anger

    Types of Anger we face with an Addict in the family Anger: 1. From the addict. Teachers or bosses are the reasons they do drugs Other family members are the reason they do drugs. Worst of all: We are the reason they do drugs 2 At the addict For what they did to themselves For […]

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    Insanity

    “Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein Nothing  I did, no action I took, worked in stopping My addict’s use of drugs. In fact, the drug problem my daughter had was progressively getting worse over the years even after multiple rehabs.  She started with alcohol and […]

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    When is Enough, Enough?

    Everyone has a different level of pain tolerance both physical and mental. My Uncle as an example, would have the cavities in his teeth filled with no Novocain when the Dentist drilled them.  Many on the other hand, would prefer to be knocked out and unconscious. The same tolerance levels to physical pain can be […]

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    Marshmallows and drug logic—-out thinking an addict

    I have never been able to outthink my addict and have always been amazed at the decision making process she goes through. My addict  always has the correct decision in the set of possibilities to choose from. The problem is that addicts don’t pick the right choice. They usually pick the choice that to normal […]

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    Phases and Denial

    How many times have we said this is just a “phase” that our child is going through. Whether it is puberty or bad grades. Sleeping more than before, or changing their friends. How about when they stop doing the things they used to like to do. These may not be phases but denials. As we […]

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    This book is not another story about an addict. It is the “Other Side of the Story”. The side of the story that you rarely see or hear about. That of the family. The mothers, fathers, sisters, and brothers of the addict and the damage caused, the chaos caused, and the broken relationships that happen […]

Drug Logic and Understanding It

The drug logic of an addict and how to understand it

How “An Addict Within”, occurred.

Discusses how the book ” An Addict Within: came about. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qq7AI2hHmuEn

Why I became a Life Coach

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Why i wrote the Book “An Addict Within”

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qq7AI2hHmuEttp://

An Addict Within”: why the book  was written

Pain and Suffering

In my almost ten year journey of dealing with an addicted child and now an adult I and my family have felt pain , and anger (what I call the seven deadly angers) and believe me for 7 years of my 10 year ongoing journey we suffered, and suffered miserably. Especially me…the dad! What I have also learned is that feeling the pain of a child or any family member addicted to drugs is inevitable but suffering from it is truly a choice … and we have control. We have to learn to get control back.

Many of us grew up wanting to be professional athletes, famous musicians , ballerinas, actors, singers. At some point in our life we had to face the reality and the pain that we may not have been good enough or we just didn’t get a break and we did not “make it”. Painful in the moment..yes. Did you suffer from it…probably at first..Are you still suffering what you could have been these many years later? Probably not. In fact you may, and I know I do, reminisce about my past musical accomplishments fondly with no pain and surely with no suffering.

This is not to say you will totally lose the pain of having an addicted child and the pain of what you feel they could have been or who they say they want to be, but, you can begin to stop suffering and help the rest of the family to stop suffering also.

I wrote the book “an addict within” to share my story with the 23.5 million parents and families who are in pain and suffering with an addict in their family. The lessons learned both right and wrong and how I brought my family and myself to a point where we were not suffering anymore. Again pain is inevitable but suffering is a choice.

Addict is a Dirty Word

I actually had a revelation one day.  that revelation was in regards to the societally dirty  taboo word… “Addict”. The word addict is as dark and dirty today  as Cancer was 50 years ago, or, AIDS was 25 years ago. Even though the term Addiction has been around for more years than AIDS and probably even Cancer… it is still a dirty word. Why is “Addict” still a dirty word?

The short answer is unlike Cancer and AID’s where  no one steals for their  disease, Addicts do. Cancer and Aids do not cause the fatalities in auto’s that drugs and alcohol do when mixed with motor vehicles. Lastly, many people still feel Addiction  is completely a choice and not a disease.

If you believe addiction is a choice then Aids was in many cases a choice also. Yet today AIDS is not a dirty word, it is considered a disease that needs treatment. It is no longer hidden away in a dark closet. Society and the world has embraced solving the world wide AIDS epidemic. Not keeping AID’ a secret and opening up  publicly about AIDS and  AIDS Education by famous musicians and the press have helped turned the public’s viewpoint about this horrible disease.

According to the CDC, there are approximately 1.2 million people living with  HIV in America age 13 and up.  Drug addiction affects 23,5 million people.

Isn’t it time that we started to make addiction a… quite a marked difference.  The disease of Addiction has much greater affects to society.

Isn’t it time  that we made talking about addiction and not hiding it away neatly in a closet acceptable? Isn’t it time for everyone to support the disease of Addiction like we do AIDS? Only we the parents, children and families of the addict , can begin to  solve the problem. Only we can begin to turn the tide and the opinions of the public and government   into helping us with the support that they give to many other diseases in our society. We can no longer be afraid to talk about addiction in our families and publicly.

 

I actually had a revelation one day.  that revelation was in regards to the societally dirty  taboo word… “Addict”. The word addict is as dark and dirty today  as Cancer was 50 years ago, or, AIDS was 25 years ago. Even though the term Addiction has been around for more years than AIDS and probably even Cancer… it is still a dirty word. Why is “Addict” still a dirty word?

The short answer is unlike Cancer and AID’s where  no one steals for their  disease, Addicts do. Cancer and Aids do not cause the fatalities in auto’s that drugs and alcohol do when mixed with motor vehicles. Lastly, many people still feel Addiction  is completely a choice and not a disease.

If you believe addiction is a choice then Aids was in many cases a choice also. Yet today AIDS is not a dirty word, it is considered a disease that needs treatment. It is no longer hidden away in a dark closet. Society and the world has embraced solving the world wide AIDS epidemic. Not keeping AID’ a secret and opening up  publicly about AIDS and  AIDS Education by famous musicians and the press have helped turned the public’s viewpoint about this horrible disease.

According to the CDC, there are approximately 1.2 million people living with  HIV in America age 13 and up.  Drug addiction affects 23,5 million people.

Isn’t it time that we started to make addiction a… quite a marked difference.  The disease of Addiction has much greater affects to society.

Isn’t it time  that we made talking about addiction and not hiding it away neatly in a closet acceptable? Isn’t it time for everyone to support the disease of Addiction like we do AIDS? Only we the parents, children and families of the addict , can begin to  solve the problem. Only we can begin to turn the tide and the opinions of the public and government   into helping us with the support that they give to many other diseases in our society. We can no longer be afraid to talk about addiction in our families and publicly.

I actually had a revelation one day.  that revelation was in regards to the societally dirty  taboo word… “Addict”. The word addict is as dark and dirty today  as Cancer was 50 years ago, or, AIDS was 25 years ago. Even though the term Addiction has been around for more years than AIDS and probably even Cancer… it is still a dirty word. Why is “Addict” still a dirty word?

The short answer is unlike Cancer and AID’s where  no one steals for their  disease, Addicts do. Cancer and Aids do not cause the fatalities in auto’s that drugs and alcohol do when mixed with motor vehicles. Lastly, many people still feel Addiction  is completely a choice and not a disease.

If you believe addiction is a choice then Aids was in many cases a choice also. Yet today AIDS is not a dirty word, it is considered a disease that needs treatment. It is no longer hidden away in a dark closet. Society and the world has embraced solving the world wide AIDS epidemic. Not keeping AID’ a secret and opening up  publicly about AIDS and  AIDS Education by famous musicians and the press have helped turned the public’s viewpoint about this horrible disease.

According to the CDC, there are approximately 1.2 million people living with  HIV in America age 13 and up.  Drug addiction affects 23,5 million people.

Isn’t it time that we started to make addiction a… quite a marked difference.  The disease of Addiction has much greater affects to society.

Isn’t it time  that we made talking about addiction and not hiding it away neatly in a closet acceptable? Isn’t it time for everyone to support the disease of Addiction like we do AIDS? Only we the parents, children and families of the addict , can begin to  solve the problem. Only we can begin to turn the tide and the opinions of the public and government   into helping us with the support that they give to many other diseases in our society. We can no longer be afraid to talk about addiction in our families and publicly.

 

Free Chapter Sample my book: An Addict Within

This book is not another story about an addict. It is the “Other Side of the Story”. The side of the story that you rarely see or hear about. That of the family. The mothers, fathers, sisters, and brothers of the addict and the damage caused, the chaos caused, and the broken relationships that happen within the family, because of the love and simultaneous hate for the addict.

This is the story of a well-educated professional, who has worked for both Fortune 100 companies and has been an entrepreneur for over 30 years. A man who controlled the world around him. Both of his children went to the finest private schools and had the finest of everything in life.  A man whose family led a very affluent, and prestigious life in their community. He is leader in both the business world and was the president of his religious organization, served on many charitable boards and was a very visible person in his community.

Then life changed for him. His daughter’s at the age of 13, exhibited the masochistic behavior known as “cutting” and self-mutilation”. From there it escalated to pills, alcohol and cocaine through her high school years of addiction. Then, into her early 20’s and into the dark world of heroin, exotic dancing,  drug dealing, overdoses, 9 rehabs and multiple detoxes,  felonies  and jail.

During the pages of this book, you will see the lengths a father will go through to save his daughter from herself and a life of pain and suffering. Single-handedly pulling her from drug houses at gunpoint, altercations with boyfriends and how his life unravels in the process. The damage to his marriage, his children, and everyone around him based on his actions.

This not just a fathers 8 year journey with his daughter’s drug addiction and the life that surrounds addiction.  It is a book about how to “fix” your life so that a family plaguedwith a loved one’s disease of addiction can learn to adjust and live a happy life

Through a father’s eyes, Mark takes you on a journey of his feelings, motivations, and the real life lessons learned in bringing his life and that of his families back to sanity.  You will see the changes that had to happen within him and his actions in bringing his life and his family’s back in control from “shame” to “sane”. You will understand his feelings his pain, his triumphs and the life lessons learned during his journey.

The book depicts are very real, harsh and compelling tale which is a must read for anyone who has an addict in their family. It is a book of change and hope. Even if your addict does not get clean, you can still learn to live your life and be happy.






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Daytona 500

One of America’s largest sports is NASCAR. I have only seen one race and although not an avid fan of racing, as I watched it I thought how exciting it would be driving in a car as a passenger at  200 plus mph, bumper to bumper in a high tech machine. Physically being pushed and pushing other cars at these speeds would be an intense experience.  The excitement of the sound of the engines, the raw power would be awesome and virile in nature. The danger and the adrenaline rush would be amazing,

It struck me that I was  already doing that.  I have been on an 8 year journey with my addict. As she drove the car bumping into other cars on the track, I was in the passenger seat trying to make sure she was ok and everything will be alright as I was holding on for dear life. Giving directions and instructions that she would not listen to!

Wasn’t that what I was supposed to do as a good father?

The problem was I didn’t have the steering wheel, my addict did! How did I expect to fix all of this when I wasn’t driving? I was simply on the journey with HER. Chasing my addict trying to fix her. I was driving around HER track, in HER life, in HER car at 200MPH  being bounced around by HER being in control of the car. All the time I was trying to get control and fix HER problem when SHE was driving.

Only when I got out of the car and sat in the stands as a spectator and watched, did I realize that I was as out of control trying to fix her, just as she was using drugs!

I no longer get in the car and ride with her as it just did not work. I now sit in the stands and as she drives around her track of life, I get an occasional glimpse of what is going on just …like watching car race. I am there when she is ready for help.

Only when I stepped out of the car did I get my life back.

Types of Anger

Types of Anger we face with an Addict in the family

Anger:

1. From the addict.

Teachers or bosses are the reasons they do drugs Other family members are the reason they do drugs. Worst of all: We are the reason they do drugs

2 At the addict

For what they did to themselves

For destroying our expectation for the . for destroying all family relationships. For destroying our friends relationships in many cases

3 At the addicts friends

They are the reason my child husband wife brother are the reason they are doing drugs

4) At other family members

They are mean to the addict

The family members do not handle the addict correctly, They are making it worse. They just don’t understand.

5). From a sibling to the addict and to the parent and or step parent. A brother or sister is jealous at all the attention and coddling that one jerk gets

A parent is again angry at the siblings not understanding

6). To and from Spouse

Anger having to deal with the family and life by themselves with no help

7) And arguments over how to handle the situation with the addict between spouses in the case of a child who is an addict.

 

 

Insanity

“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” Albert Einstein

Nothing  I did, no action I took, worked in stopping My addict’s use of drugs. In fact, the drug problem my daughter had was progressively getting worse over the years even after multiple rehabs.  She started with alcohol and marijuana, through pills and cocaine all the way to her current drug of choice, heroin by injection.

Punishing her did not work. Bribery did not work. Nothing I did worked. Neither did all the  proactive  actions I took in trying to stop her. None had any affect for more than a few days.

I was as addicted to trying to fix her as she was addicted to heroin.

I then knew I had to change and an epiphany  of sorts happened.

Could  it possibly be that my proactive, Superdad  attitude, in some bizarre way fueled her drive to do drugs further? Could it be that my uncovering her and tracking her down and constantly trying to fix her, put more pressure on her to escape and to hide with drugs? While I am trying to save her, am I really helping to kill her?

Well I now knew that at best my actions had no affect as her life progressed to heroin. At worst, my actions of chasing her were making the problem worse. Therefore, in the best case scenario… if nothing I did helped her, and at worst it drove her farther into drugs, then, why would any sane person continue this behavior?

So I made a dramatic change in my behavior and it turned my life sane again. Has it stopped my addict from using …no. Has it made my life and that of the rest of my family  better….yes. It is possible to be happy while your child is using. Is it easy …no. Is there a way…yes.

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Drug Logic and Understanding It

The drug logic of an addict and how to understand it

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glacial river

How “An Addict Within”, occurred.

Discusses how the book ” An Addict Within: came about. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Qq7AI2hHmuEn

Learn More
ice fields

Pain and Suffering

In my almost ten year journey of dealing with an addicted child and now an adult I and my family have felt pain , and anger (what I call the seven deadly angers) and believe me for 7 years of my 10 year ongoing journey we suffered, and suffered miserably. Especially me…the dad! What I […]

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